— Kimbery Grey, 2022 Contest judge

Boatsong/Viljandi Paadimees

Poetry

21 February 2024

“This contrapuntal blew me away for its deft use of silence and fracture as a gesture of language. There is an elliptical sense to the way the two parts interact—a silence that exists because of time, generational divide, loss, and misunderstanding. There is a daughter and a mother fractured by grief, and a laborious attempt to reattach through song. This poem is a profound, formal demonstration of the Wittgensteinian notion of the inexpressible as a background against the expressed; each side individually more coherent than the marrying of the two together (much like individual people). Is this what grief does to us? That no matter how it is shared, it is a wholly individual action with one person in active grieving and the other, somehow, always a witness to the act? I think the speaker wants there to be some kind of communion, but the poem knows what continents have known for a long time: there will always be space between us, fractals made of our edges, keeping us ever so slightly (or distantly) apart. The best we can do is song, and this one is sung across the gaps we are made of, the gaps a poem makes between the language: a perfect marriage of what’s expressible and what is sometimes, or perhaps always, impossible to express.”


 once she said to me: It’s amazing you feel this

connected, being

second generation. As if I had sipped wine

from a glass that wasn’t mine and spilled

into thin air. Amazing—

you, right now

in the kitchen

waltzing—so my mother,

a year I wasn’t a glass

grief, part song, crying, Vanaema

in every room—

a secret

 spilled

 

My mother plays a YouTube video—

grieving                                                           

before it’s finished. Laulupidu, a year I wasn’t

there, which includes most. She sings along

inhaling, gasping for breath, apologizing,        

still crying, still singing. I don’t know  

where I’m supposed to look. Who     

is performing? This is the song. Picture us

waltzing in the kitchen, I mean living         

room (which was part   

of the kitchen). Vanaema—again—    

I’m so my mother

right now she says right now I’m so—       

 


Amanda Maret Scharf (she/her) is a queer poet from Los Angeles. Her writing has been supported by Lambda LitFest, Community of Writers at Squaw Valley, Tin House, and The Home School. Her poems have been published or are forthcoming in Meridian, Willow Springs, The Iowa Review, and elsewhere. She holds an MFA in poetry from Ohio State University where she served as poetry editor for The Journal.